Sexuality Coaching for Women

It all begins with permission. Permission to see yourself as a sexual being. Permission to express yourself as a sexual being inseparable from all aspects of yourself. Permission to feel erotic pleasure.

As children, teenagers, young adults, and grownups, our sense of self is deeply informed and shaped by the messages we receive and the modeling we witness. Many messages stem from organized religious groups that foster specific implications about sexuality, purity, desire, and when it’s acceptable and not for women to access their sexuality. Mostly, these messages have been to play small and accompany the men in our lives. 

Sexuality is often presented as acceptable only within the confines of a heterosexual, monogamous marriage and primarily for procreation. This teaching contributed to the idea that a woman’s sexual identity should be secondary to her roles as wife and mother. For centuries, sexual purity was considered a central measure of a woman’s moral worth, leading to practices and norms that emphasized control and restraint over women’s bodies and choices.

Simultaneously, there is an emphasis on women being supportive and fulfilling partners to their husbands, with some interpretations suggesting that women’s sexuality should be in service to their husbands' needs. No wonder it's confusing and challenging to find your voice and develop a sense of sexual identity that resonates with you. Sexuality is meant to be part of a broader, holistic view of your personal health and spiritual well-being.

Develop a Sensual Self Awareness 

How do you connect with your inner sexiness? How do you connect to your Divine Feminine and celebrate her?  What are the ways you can access the sexual expression of your divine feminine?  It begins with permission and then direction.

How do you turn yourself on? What are the things that you find sexy *( and that you find not sexy)...I will help you map a course to connect with and embody your divine feminine. Help you to envision and achieve your sexual goals. Learn to understand your turn-ons/offs and create an erotic script for yourself.

Towards a New Vision of Your Sexuality

The focus of sex coaching with me will be to help you find your voice and identify your sexual desire. A large portion of this work revolves around self-love. Heroic Self Care. What’s the tone of voice you use to speak to yourself?  Is it critical and impatient? Or is it loving and compassionate?

Whether in a relationship or not, the work begins with yourself. It begins with a close examination of your values and judgments around sexuality and how those impact the way you move through this life and how you feel. Together, we’ll find the integration between sexual and non-sexual elements of yourself. We’ll explore the sensual, the erotic, the playful.  We’ll explore where your connection to your divine feminine is ruptured. And we’ll map a course for self-reflection and self-awareness that encompasses curiosity, motivation, dedication, commitment, and reflection.

What aspects of yourself are you curious to explore further?  What elements contribute to your intrinsic motivation and your extrinsic motivation? Where is your dedication to yourself? How does this manifest? How do you recommit to self-care and self-love? When do you give yourself time to reflect on how you feel and what needs are not being met?

Heroic Self-Care

Giving yourself exactly what you want/need from others, without apology.

Some of the top concerns women experience about their sexuality include:

1. Low or no sexual desire
2. Lack of ability to experience orgasm
3. Lack of ability to experience orgasm with a partner
4. Painful sex, vaginismus
5. Sexual inhibition
6. Social and dating skills deficit
7. Desire for enhanced pleasure

While this list reflects some concerns you may have about sex, these elements appear at the surface of what you notice.  Once you get curious about the root cause, a different list emerges:

1. Relationship conflicts and power struggles
2. Body image issues
3. Fatigue and exhaustion, lack of feeling appreciated
4. History of abuse and or coercive relationships
5. Unskilled lover or partner
6. Lack of permission 

This is where the work begins. Here is where we start to get clear about sexual goals arand design a plan to help you get there.